Many people believe that having a baby "ruins" a woman's body. That a woman should look the same way as a mother that she did as a young girl. Have you ever seen a 90 year old woman that you could have mistaken for a 15 year old girl? I didn't think so.
I believe a person's body is a canvas of the life they have lived. Someone with wrinkles around their eyes are from the smiles they had on their family vacation. And someone with a scar on their leg from the time they went scuba diving and got bitten by a shark proudly displays the scar and brags about it. From the time we are young we get marks and scars on our bodies that are a timeline of our experiences.
My body, for example, chronicles my life's events.. I have a scar on my arm from just this past June when I reached into the oven and touched it to the hot rack and got a big long blister. It's still pink and it gets pinker in the sun. I have a scar on my little toe from when I dropped a bottle of shampoo on it in the shower in John's little apartment. I have a scar on my right pinky finger from slamming it in the screen door when I was probably about 10. I have a scar on the top side of my right wrist from reaching into my parrot's cage when I was young and tried to bite me.. I jerked my hand away and scraped my arm on his cage. I have a 2 inch scar on my left leg from when I was in high school. I was on the track team and I was competing in high jump. I landed funny and the spike on the bottom of my shoe impaled my leg and tore downwards. I have a couple of scars on my face from having large moles removed. I have stretch mark scars on my breasts and hips that have faded into a pearly white color from when I was a teenager going through puberty. I have small new red stretch marks on my breasts from them filling up with milk to feed my baby.
So what I don't understand is why we as women are shamed into believing that the scars our bodies obtain while we are pregnant are these awful hideous ugly marks that need to be hidden from view. Why is the scar on my leg that I got from a spike going into my leg considered cool, but the scars on my breasts considered ugly? I HAD A BABY for crying out loud! How cool is that???
Why would I want to look the same way I did before I had a baby? I am not by any means the same person I was before I gave birth. I am a MOTHER now! Inside AND out. My arms and back are muscular and strong from carrying around a growing-like-a-weed baby. My breasts are full and round from filling up with milk, and soft and jiggly from being emptied over and over. My stomach is soft and fluffy and makes a perfect spot for my baby to rest while she is nursing. I am more curvy now than before I had my baby. I now have boobs and hips. Yay!
Maybe when I get home I will add some pictures with this post of the body I once had and the body I have now.. but only if I am brave enough. Won't you encourage me? :)
What kind of scars do you proudly display? What kind of marks do you hide?